Womb Ready: Preparing for the Promise Before the Ring
Because motherhood starts with faith, not a due date
A month ago, I started reading 9 Months is Not Enough: The Ultimate Pre-pregnancy Checklist to Create a Baby-Ready Body and Build Generational Health by Alexandria DeVito. In it, she shatters myths surrounding fertility and provides practical strategies to prepare your body for pregnancy, before you even start trying to conceive. Biblically, this reminded me how deeply God values preparation (Proverbs 24:27) and the importance of stewarding our bodies well (1 Corinthians 6:19–20). As I read, I was encouraged to see that while I’m still waiting on my kingdom husband, I’ve already been on the right path toward preparing my body for pregnancy. That stirred something in me—not just for myself, but for you.
Some of you may be wrestling with infertility. Some of you are simply wondering: How can I best prepare now so that I’m partnering with God before, during, and after pregnancy? Either way, I’m honored to hold space for this conversation. Because just like the subtitle says—motherhood starts with faith, not a due date.
If children aren’t your desire or this isn’t your personal battle, that’s okay. I invite you to pass this along to a sister who needs the encouragement. Let’s get into it.
The Truth About Fertility
What I appreciate most about DeVito’s book is how she breaks down the science. In Chapter 3 (page 66 in the eBook), she offers a simple but powerful equation for conception:
Good egg + good sperm + proper timing + optimal environment (uterus)
She also emphasizes a key point: Fertility is a barometer of your overall health. While age matters, your biological age (cellular health) carries more weight than your chronological age (how many birthdays you've had). That distinction changed everything for me.
What God Gave Me for the Waiting Woman
Your womb is a vessel, not an afterthought. And while prayer is essential, preparation is equally necessary. Too often, women wait until they’re trying to conceive to start taking vitamins, eating better, or getting more active. But did you know that healthy habits before pregnancy can reduce the risk of complications like gestational diabetes, preterm birth, and hypertension? (Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9182711/)
This matters. Why? Because how we treat our bodies over time directly impacts our reproductive health. The goal isn’t just conception, it’s to conceive in health.
For the waiting woman...
Break Generational Shame and Silence
As a woman of color, I grew up in a household where topics like miscarriage, infertility, or reproductive health were rarely discussed. If someone got pregnant, we heard about it, but deeper conversations were few and far between. At 19, I had an ectopic pregnancy and lost a fallopian tube. I’ll never forget my OB/GYN, a Black woman, telling me I had a 50% chance of it happening again. No encouragement. No next steps. Just the facts.
Here’s what I’ve learned: You only need one, healthy fallopian tube to get pregnant. And more importantly, you need faith, wisdom, and information. We get to break the silence in our families and we get to advocate for ourselves and others.
Preparing Starts in the Spirit
Don’t wait to believe. Preparing your womb starts with faith. Prayer is the most important tool in your hands. I encourage you to fast and pray specifically for this area, long before your spouse enters the picture. If you're courting or engaged, grab this book or something similar. God is practical. He gives wisdom for the how, not just the when. Even if marriage feels far away, God honors faith in the “not yet.” Faith isn’t passive. Start speaking God’s Word over your womb now.
Healing Is Holistic: Physical + Emotional
Five years ago, I stopped accepting the narrative that one fallopian tube equals infertility. Our wombs may carry trauma, but they also carry promise. Healing is possible, physically and emotionally.
Because I battled depression and schizophrenia for years, I had to heal my full ecosystem before welcoming a child. Emotional healing meant confronting the roots of unforgiveness, anxiety, and past sexual wounds.
Ask God for strategy. He’ll reveal what generational lies you’ve unknowingly agreed with and help you break them.
Build a Lifestyle That Honors Motherhood Now
Whether you’re believing God for your first child or healing after miscarriage, I encourage you to build a lifestyle now that reflects the mother you hope to become. That includes rest, healthy eating, managing stress, and examining your upbringing. Ask yourself: Are there childhood wounds I’ve carried into adulthood? What patterns do I want to break?
For me, I used to believe kids shouldn’t have opinions. That came from being told to “sit down and shut up” as a child. I now know: Children are allowed to have voices. Of course, there’s a time and a place but their opinions matter, especially in situations involving abuse or trauma.
Surround Yourself with Faith-Filled Voices
Find people who are in your boat and people who have overcome. Testimonies from women who’ve faced fertility battles are powerful, but so are relationships with sisters who are preparing right alongside you.
One of my friends is also waiting for her husband. We share pre-conception tips, encourage one another, and pray together. When my cycle got irregular, God showed her, in prayer, that I needed to add zinc and folic acid. I obeyed, and my body responded. This is why community matters.
And one last thing: Stop calling yourself infertile. Even if a doctor said it. Even if a chart says it. Speak the opposite: I am fertile. My womb is blessed. In God’s timing, I will carry.
Important Insight from the Book
Here’s what 9 Months is Not Enough shares about hormonal birth control and fertility:
Nutrient Depletion: Birth control drains your body of vitamins essential for fertility like B2, B6, B12, magnesium, and zinc.
Gut Disruption: It alters the gut microbiome, which affects hormone regulation and immune health.
Hidden Imbalances: It can mask hormonal issues instead of healing them, often acting like a band-aid instead of a solution.
This isn’t to scare you—but to inform you. Too many doctors give us just enough to manage symptoms instead of helping us heal but we’re not just any women, we are daughters of the Most High God. We don’t settle for symptom management, we pursue wholeness.
Conclusion: Steward the Season Before the Seed
Yes, I recommend the book. But more than that, I recommend taking care of your health now. Don’t wait. Your future children are worth the preparation.
And let’s be clear, this isn’t just a woman’s responsibility. Men matter, too. Their sperm quality, diet, and stress levels all affect fertility. Clean eating, movement, and supplements aren’t “women’s work”, they’re teamwork.
Preparing for parenthood doesn’t start at the baby shower. It starts with stewardship, discipline, and obedience. The goal isn’t just to have a baby. The goal is to conceive in health, in peace, and in alignment with God’s timing.
Fertility Scriptures to Meditate On
Exodus 23:26 – “No one shall suffer miscarriage or be barren in your land; I will fulfill the number of your days.”
1 Samuel 1:27 – “I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him.”
Genesis 21:1-2 – “Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah… and Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age.”
Isaiah 54:1 – “Sing, O barren woman, you who never bore a child… because more are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband.”
Luke 1:36-37 – “Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age… For nothing is impossible with God.”
